ARMY:
FRG (Family Readiness Groups) are available to aide new and established soldiers and their families as an active support system. They  get together weekly or biweekly to provide activities and support to enhance the flow of information, increase the resiliency of unit soldiers and their families, provide practical tools for adjusting to military deployments and separations, and enhance the well-being  within the unit. The activities emphasized will vary depending on whether the unit is in pre/post deployment, deployed, or in a training/sustainment period at home station. Since one of the goals of an FRG is to support the military mission through provision of support, outreach, and information to family members, certain FRG activities are essential and common to all groups, and include member meetings, staff and committee meetings, publication and distribution of newsletters, maintenance of virtual FRG websites, maintenance of updated rosters and readiness information, and member telephone trees and e-mail distribution lists.
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NAVY:
In the Navy the programs are similar and referred to as Navy Wives Meetup groups.

No matter what branch or where you are being stationed, search your Military base website for a group to connect with before you move to your family's new station. Make the most of getting to know the area and new friends!
 
 
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E-6 Darrell Bain, right; Sergeant Gary Bain, Left. Taken in Chu Lia, Vietnam
Today I am honored to salute two brothers who served in Vietnam. Former E-6 Medic Darrell Bain and Captain Gary Bain, (Distinguished Flying Cross & Purple Heart recipient to name a few), had the unique experience of serving some of that time together. Darrell had an opportunity to act as courier to where Gary's F-4 unit was during his  first tour. Both brothers have impressive service records and both brothers today share their experiences through either books or media.



THANK YOU CAPTAIN GARY BAIN AND  E-6 DARRELL BAIN FOR YOUR SERVICE!
       
FORMER E-6 MEDIC AND AUTHOR DARRELL BAIN

     I first enlisted in the Air Force in 1956 and was trained as a Surgical technician but also worked in the delivery room, emergency room and ran a surgical clinic. I served two years in Bermuda and two years at Dyess AFB in Abilene, Texas. I was discharged from the Air Force in 1960 then enlisted in the Army. I first worked as a Pharmacy technician then re-enlisted for Medical laboratory training. I was the Honor Graduate of the basic laboratory school and later went to the advanced laboratory school for one year where I was again the Honor Graduate. I also attended the Army’s CBR warfare school (Chemical, Biological and Radiological) and was the Honor Graduate. Awards were the usual service medals and campaign medals. My final rank was E-6.
     In addition to working in the fields listed above, I ran the 541st Medical Dispensary Team in Vietnam and volunteered to go to the isolated villages to treat Vietnamese civilians.
     During my second tour of Vietnam I was in charge of the laboratory at the 17th Field Hospital for the first few months then asked for a change of station to Da Nang when my brother Gary arrived in Vietnam. We managed to get together three times before I rotated home and got out of the Army to go to college. I ran the parasitology department of the lab at the 95th EVAC Hospital until I was discharged.

What did you like most about serving?
I believe I liked the training in self-discipline most and helping injured and sick troops and civilians. I enjoyed my field trips out to the isolated villages the most where I saw many different kinds of diseases I would never have seen in America, particularly parasitic infections.

What prompted you to serve?
At the time of my first enlistment only days past my 17th birthday I had no idea what I wanted from life. I decided that enlisting would help me find some kind of work I enjoyed and it did.

What were some of the greatest challenges you faced?
Some of the biggest challenges was learning to react swiftly in emergency, life or death situations in surgery and the emergency room and later in Vietnam.

What was the most rewarding experience?
My time in the villages where I treated Civilians who had never seen a doctor in their lives. Many times I feel I saved lives and helped cure some children of bad diseases such as parasites, anemia, fungus's and the like.

What was the training and prep for your MOS?
The Air Force and Army schools were some of the best training anywhere at the time I attended the schools. I was discharged from the Army in February 1969 and can only hope the present day training is as good.

How did serving affect your family? Did they find their part of service rewarding?
My parents were proud of me for being in the service so long and for volunteering twice for Vietnam duty. At one time all three of us brothers were in Vietnam.  My wife at the time didn’t think so much of it, though, and we were divorced soon after I returned from my first tour.

What opportunities or advantages or disadvantages did you have after reentering civilian life?
The utmost advantage was the G.I. Bill which enabled me to go to college and obtain a degree in Medical Technology. I was the first and only one in my family to graduate from college. The discipline taught in the service helped me immensely in school. Later on when I was without medical insurance I was able to go to VA clinics for treatment and drugs which I probably couldn’t have afforded at the time.

What is your advice to someone thinking about serving their country?
Before enlisting, decide why you are doing so. Is it to serve your country in return for the benefits gained form living in America or is simply for the financial advantages later? Either case, decide if you are prepared to face death if it comes to that and know that your comrades will be depending on you, just as you will be on them.
In general I believe that a term of enlistment in any of the branches of the military will prepare you to face civilian life with much more confidence, knowledge and knowing the value of comradeship. If the military is not in need of that many young men and women I believe we should have some equivalent service they could sign up for to help our country. It would also help the youngsters in more ways than they could possibly imagine.

Darrell Bain
Fictionwise Author of the Year
Multiple Dream Realm and Eppie awards

See all my books at http://www.darrellbain.com


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MEDICS WILD
                                   MEDICS WILD

When the Williard brothers get going, any resemblance to a real war is purely coincidental! Sgt. James Williard uses his position as the hauncho of a medical dispensary in Vietnam as a base, while he and his crazy medics turn the war zone into a party zone. Williard's two brothers, Jerry, a naval ensign and Jason (Jumpin' Jase) the Marine fighter pilot who regularly loses 15 million dollar planes join the fun and then it is like no war ever recorded. Wilder than M*A*S*H, a hilarious romp! A fictional novel but events based upon true episodes. I have also authored another book with Will Stafford, a helicopter pilot titled Complete Toppers.



MARINE F-4 PILOT CAPTAIN GARY BAIN
      I enlisted in the Marine Corps in Aug of 1959. Served as an electronics technician for six years attaining the rank of Sergeant. I started flight school in Pensacola FL in Oct ’65 as a Marine Aviation Cadet and received my wings and commission Apr 17 1967. From there I transitioned to the F4 Phantom at Cherry Point NC then went to Vietnam in Aug ‘68.
         My first squadron in ‘Nam was VMFA-323 and in Apr ’69 was transferred to VMFA-115. On my 213th mission I was shot down and was medevac’d to the Pensacola Hospital in FL. I had sustained a broken arm and leg as a result of a high speed ejection in Laos. I was down about three hours in an extremely hostile and heavily defended area of the Ho Chi Minh Trail. The A1 Sky Raiders and other supporting aircraft paved the way for the Jolly Green chopper to rescue me. One of the A1’s as well as the chopper that picked me up sustained battle damage from enemy gunners.
        Out of Vietnam I received a Distinguished Flying Cross, 15 Air Medals, a Purple Heart, a Navy Achievement Award for my work in Rescue and Survival Training for air crews, a Combat Action Ribbon and two Good Conduct medals for my service while enlisted. In 1971 I was accepted as one of the first ten pilots to fly and pioneer the AV-8A Harrier, a vertical take-off and landing jet. I flew Harriers until 1977 and retired in Oct 1979 as a Captain.

What did you like most about serving?
I loved flying jet aircraft, especially the Harrier. I also received my Water Safety and Survival Instructor rating and served in that capacity training aircrew for land and water survival my last two years in the Corps. I felt I was well versed and qualified in that area as I had to eject from an F4 at night over the South China Sea while in ‘Nam as well as when I was shot down. I also ejected the third time from a Harrier that flamed out on me in Feb ’77.

What prompted you to serve?
I dreamed of being a Marine Corps Aviator from the time I was 10 years old. Seeing the movie “Gung-Ho” and watching the Blue Angels on TV intrigued me.

What were some of the greatest challenges you faced?
The greatest challenge I faced was attempting to shed the guilt of losing my backseater when I was shot down. Having lived a life of sobriety now for about 20 years I have found closure and am at peace with myself.

What was the most rewarding experience?
The most rewarding experience has been looking up my rescuers from when I was shot down in Laos and hosting a reunion for them on my 40 acres here in OK. There, 40 years later to the day, I gave them my personal thanks for saving my life. I am presently producing a documentary of that rescue.

What was the training and prep for your MOS?
Knowing I was accepted for flight school I attempted to get myself in shape physically for the rigors of what I knew was going to be a training syllabus that was extremely demanding. It paid off as at the end of 16 weeks of pre-flight I won the prestigious position of Regimental Commander.

How did serving affect your family? Did they find their part of service rewarding?
It is my belief that the wives of Marine Corps pilots as well as other family members are extremely proud of their service even with the inherent hardships of deployments and separation.

What opportunities or advantages or disadvantages did you have after reentering civilian life?
Personally I flailed around doing a bit of everything and was drunk most of the time. But when I woke up 20 or so years ago and put the bottle down my life turned around. I’ve led an adventuresome life. Sky-diving, riding horses, searching for gold, scuba-diving just to name a few have left me with many fond memories. And I continue to seek adventure.

What is your advice to someone thinking about serving their country?
My advice to any young person thinking of going into the military is to take advantage of everything that is offered. Learn your assigned skills and the skills of those above you as well.  Stay happy, stay motivated and seek higher responsibilities. And seek wisely the counsel of your elders.

Gary Bain owner of
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Congress recently authorized an expansion for the role played by female troops in combat zones. There’s been a lot of attention paid to this, but it’s actually a relatively small change that only codified in law the reality on the ground for the last ten years. In reality, very little has changed.

Women are still barred from most combat arms professions – especially the infantry and tanks. What Congress did, here, was to allow women to serve in theater at the battalion level – which was thought to be too close to actual combat situations prior to Afghanistan and Iraq. Which means there are still 230,000 jobs – roughly one-fifth of the positions in the active component – in the military that are still off-limits to women purely because of the circumstances of their birth. There aren’t traditional front lines in war any longer. The past ten years of constant war has taught us that. Unlike in conflicts past, when there was a fairly clear delineation between territory contested by combat and territory thought to be “safe,” the nature of counterinsurgency has shown us that the enemy can be – and often is – anywhere. A gaggle of Taliban fighters is, in fact, more likely to attack a supply convoy than a patrol of infantry fighters, because they understand that the warriors on the convoy aren’t as highly trained as the infantrymen. Thus, a ban on women serving in posts “close to combat” no longer makes any sense, because any place in any country where a counterinsurgency campaign is underway is close to combat. Of the nearly 6,000 troops that have died in Iraq and Afghanistan, 144 of them were women. None of them were on the “front lines.”

There is some method to the madness, here. But it doesn’t make a lick of sense in the long run (insert joke about Congress here.) The government is merely saying that women have already been in the thick of things for ten years – they might as well be “allowed to” by law. Which makes this entire thing a charade; a correction of a bureaucratic oversight does not a civil rights victory make.  This is not a victory for women.

Congress’ leap of logic is missing an accompanying conclusion – since women have been in the thick of things for ten years, fighting and dying for their country as valiantly as their male counterparts, they should have been authorized to begin serving in combat roles. At the very least, our armed services are long overdue for a plan to implement a repeal of this egregious policy that discriminates on the basis of gender.

I have personally served with many women and men – there are some men I would follow into battle under any circumstances, any time, because they have led me and I trust them. There are some men that I wouldn’t trust to eat an MRE without biting his own tongue and needing to go to medical.

It’s the same with women. I’ve had female counterparts that I don’t think could fight their way out of a wet paper bag. I’ve had female leaders who have inspired me, and who I know I could trust with my life, and who I would share a fighting hole with any day of the week.
When the topic comes up, the laundry of lists of challenges to women serving in combat inevitably gets trotted out: Women aren’t as strong as men. They can’t, on average, perform as well under a combat load – in fact, many can’t wear a combat load and still remain mobile – they can’t run as fast, their endurance isn’t as great, etc. ad nauseam. The Marines, especially, refuse to compromise their standards – if someone can’t perform at the level we demand of Marine Corps infantrymen, they can’t be Marine Corps infantrymen. They’re not incorrect – America needs her Marines to be extraordinary people capable of achieving extraordinary feats.

There are also logistical challenges. Women and men need to be segregated when sleeping, showering and during basic hygiene. There also seems to me to be a very high danger to women not from the enemy, but from her fellow service members; as long as sexual assault remains the prevalent problem within our ranks that it does, sending women out to a forward operating base, surrounded by men, creates a highly dangerous environment for them.

These are challenges, not insurmountable obstacles. The Marine Corps – or any of the branches of service – doesn’t need to lower their standards. They merely need to give everyone a shot to meet them. If you can’t cut it, you shouldn’t be in the infantry. If you can do everything that’s required of infantrymen, you should be allowed in the infantry. Yes, this excludes most women from that particular job – if for no other reasons than those that are purely biological.

But if there’s a standard by which we can judge someone to be fit for combat, regardless of sex, then everyone deserves a chance to try and live up to that standard. If the military wants to avoid the stickier parts of officially sending women into combat by continuing to field Female Engagement Teams and continuing to enforce the present segregation of the sexes, then by all means, it’s understandable (for the present moment, given on-the-ground reality, and as long as it’s on an enforceable timetable to fully integrate the service in a reasonable amount of time.) We can, and will, overcome the thorny sexual issues that come along with the desegregation of sexes in a fighting force. It will take training, it will take professionalism and it will take a monumental effort on the part of officers and noncommissioned officers in all branches of the service. But we’re the brightest and best professional fighting force in the world – if we can’t do it, it can’t be done. And I assure you that it can be done. We need to allow women the privilege to actually fight for their nation, not just to work the mail room or staff the chow hall. Any soldier would rush to tell you that he or she doesn’t believe in “second-class” soldiers in the military. But the policy, as it stands, creates a de facto underclass of soldiers who are told that they are incapable before they are tested, who are robbed of a chance to earn what all of their counterparts are able to earn, who are unable to show the true grit and toughness of their patriotism and desire to serve America.

In the Marines, we say “We’re all Green.” You can either do the job or you can’t – it doesn’t matter what you look like. This is a radically egalitarian idea, and one that pervades all of the branches of the Armed Services. And it’s exactly this attitude that has led to one of the great meritocracies of the modern era. The military has always preceded great social change by half a generation – just look at racial integration of the service, and the recent repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. The military has always been a paradox in this way, being a quintessentially conservative organization that continually leads the way on social progressivism.

Women have been in combat for a long time; like men, some make great fighters and others don’t. It’s long past time the military recognized this and put steps in place to fully integrate our female fighters into combat arms occupational specialties. The recent steps taken by Congress are a start, but without a full framework, we’re still failing our fellow service members who are already taking the fight to the enemy every day.
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| February 15, 2012